Choosing a Roommate: Should I Live with My Best Friend?

Monday, July 13, 2020

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After graduating from high school, many students come to realize that their social circle will soon become divided, as friends travel from home to attend college or university. This results in many students finding a new group of acquaintances, once they arrive at their post-secondary school.


However, on occasion, students may opt to attend the same school as their best friend, in order to stay close to one another. In this circumstance, the two best friends will often consider living together while they attend school. While this may seem like a great idea, there are several pros and cons to consider before rooming with a best friend.



You already know a lot about your best friend. 
There isn’t going to be as much uncertainty or ambiguity in moving in with a friend, in comparison to moving in with a stranger. You’ll have a good idea of what to expect, generally speaking, because you know them quite well.


You’ll have common ground and shared interests.
You and your best friend probably have quite a bit in common already, in terms of hobbies and shared interests. It’s great to live with someone who leads a similar lifestyle.


You can skip the awkward “getting to know you” phase.
Getting to know a complete stranger who becomes your roommate can sometimes be difficult; especially if your personalities aren’t congruent. Living with a best friend can help you skip this sometimes awkward stage.


You don’t have to worry about getting stuck with an undesirable roommate.
There’s no guarantee your best friend will be a great roommate, but you should have a relatively good idea of what they might be like to live with.


You can discuss your living accommodations in person, instead of through the Internet or phone.
When you’re paired with a stranger as a roommate, chances are they won’t be from the same city as you. This makes communication a little more difficult, as you’ll have to resort to conversation via the Internet or phone calls.


It’s comforting to have someone you know well around to help.
Having a best friend around when you need assistance or when you’re going through a tough time can be a great relief.



You may not be as eager to meet new people and friends.
You may not feel the drive to put yourself out there socially, if you’ve already got a best friend. Of course you’ll still make new friends; you just might not make an effort to do so. 


In the event of a roommate conflict you may jeopardize your (best) friendship.
When sharing accommodations with another person, disagreements and conflicts can arise. If these disagreements escalate with your roommate (and best friend), you could end up hurting the friendship.


You might not know your best friend, as well as you think.
Being best friends with someone and living with them are two entirely different things. If you’ve spent a lot of time with your best friend, it doesn’t always mean you will know what their living style is like. You’ll learn a lot of new things about someone, once you move in with them.


Too much of a good thing is a reality.
Spending too much time with someone can sometimes create tension. Sharing accommodations with someone means you’ll be around them a lot. This can develop both positive and negative experiences.


You may evade confrontations or difficult conversations, to avoid arguments.
The last thing you want to do is jeopardize a friendship, so you may find yourself avoiding conversations that could create a disagreement. This might make it difficult to address concerns related to sharing a housing space.


Living with a best friend can be a great experience, but it’s best to consider all of these pros and cons before moving in together. Someone may be a great best friend, but not necessarily the best roommate.


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